Féminisme For Life

Feminism is seen in so many different ways.

It seems like that word has become risque. With so many negative connotations, and hateful synonyms, it’s no wonder why our generation doesn't want to labelled as a feminist. 

Some see feminists as crazy, imposing, man-hating topless lesbians. Some aren’t sure about what it is. But to me, feminists are people who believe in the social, political and economic equality of both gender. If you believe that men and women are equal in every single way and situation then you are feminist, my friend. Feminism is something so very important to me. It has shaped me into the young woman I am today, feminism has helped me react the adequate way in some situations. It has helped me defend women around me who needed help. It is something I am proud of. Feminism makes me happy; Feminism gives me hope for the future of our children and grandchildren. I want to help to stop rape culture, cat-calling and sexism in general.

Feminism supports men staying at home and raising their children if that is what they want to do, or what is best for their family. Feminism supports women treating men with respect. Feminism also supports men getting paid paternity leave so they can stay home with their newborn child. Feminism supports men being sensitive, strong, tough, or whatever they want to be. Feminism supports men. Feminism supports people and feminism supports life too.

At the end of the words to say you are not a feminist is to say you do not believe in equality, and that is the fact. This is not a myth, not an opinion, but a fact. Of course everyone is entitled to his or her own beliefs, and I’m not here to tell you that you have to be a feminist. Instead, I am trying to help educate you on what being a feminist truly mean, because my bet is if people really understood the true meaning of feminism, we would have a lot more men and women

How to Deal with Sex for the First Time?

To some people, the first time having sex is one of the most important moments of your life, there are different reasons for different people, cultures and beliefs. For some, it’s no big deal, it’s just a first time like any other first times. Personally, I believe that it doesn’t matter if you think it’s a special moment or not, you have the right to believe what you want. What matters to me,  is if you feel ready, comfortable and that you trust the person you’re doing it with. Age doesn’t really matter, some people are comfortable at a younger age than others, as long as you feel ready to do it then I don’t see what is wrong. I honestly don’t think that anyone can decide when or who to lose it to but yourself.

In the media, a lot of the time, loosing your virginity is seen as a very special moment; I’m talking about rose petals, candles, fireworks and the perfect lover. But after talking to some of people about it, I soon found out that it doesn’t always goes as planned and it doesn’t always feel great.
Just a little reminder, do it if you feel ready and especially don’t do it if you feel obligated to do it or just to please the other person.

Im kinda sad that i know some of people still think that women can get pregnant just by they do a blow job or just by kissing and they dont even know how to deal with it. Well, im here not forcing you guys to do sex at the young age but im here just to show ypu some reasons why we shouldnt get afraid of loosing virginity because anyway we will loose it sooner or later.

As i said at the first time, these all is about belief and cultures because everyone is different with each other. And the reason why i wrote this kind of article because i think Indonesian teenagers dont get enough sex education at school, they have no enough couragement to talk with their parents about sexual things and some of them are not allowed to speak about it.


Youth aged 13 to 24 accounted for more than 1 in 5 new HIV diagnoses in 2014, (source). Let’s all help to prevent STD’s and please please stay protected. You have to realise that things do happen and it can happen to anyone, you have to realise that you can get Aids after the 100th time you have sex or the first time having it. There is nothing cool about having unprotected sex and NEVER FEEL OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE !!!

Most of you have probably learned this in school but just in case, here are ways to have sex safely :) :

• Use goddamn condom. You even have lots of variant taste and there is even glow-in-the-dark one
• For ladies, take birth control pills. REMEMBER THE PILLS DO NOT PROTECT YOU FROM STD’S SO YOU CAN BE NOT PREGNANT BUT STILL HAVE HERPES AND IT AIN’T PRETTY.
• Use lubricant, because friction heightens the risk of infections and can also cause broken condoms.
• Get tested regularly (because it’s simply better to be safe than sorry).
• Communicate with your partner.

Lastly, thank you so much for reading and remember have sex whenever you want to and whenever you feel safe and comfortable, your body is ypur own bussiness no one have right to forcing you to do anything babes. STAY FUCKING PROTECTED.

With love,
Angie

Everyone is Beautiful

Skin goals or body goals does not always mean having white skin and slim or eve skinny body. this creates a toxic mindset to girls of colour (especially indonesians since there are so many account that give such an useless article)  which is: "if you're not white or at least white-passing, you can't be 'goals'." and that's wrong. that's so terribly wrong.

since we were very young, if you're not light-skinned, society will automatically judge you as 'ugly'. light-skinned people are worshipped like hell and people who are dark-skinned are encouraged to 'bleach' their skin (heck why there's a lot of 'whitening' products out there) and if you noticed almost all of the skin care ads product always giving you their best power WHITENING

people who don't have sharp noses - out of here.

people with curly hair - fuck that, we like
straight hair.

also, racist stereotypes. black people in indonesia are often degraded (this is happend to me since im with dark skin, they judge me and mostly my outfit). black people can't be pretty. indians can't be pretty. native americans can't be pretty. hispanics can't be pretty, africans cant be pretty. fuck that.

fuck this Euro-centric beauty standards (i dont meant to be racist but the fact says almost Indonesian teenagers are obssesed with European beauty standards) stand you're fucking pretty and you don't need lighter skin, straighter hair, smaller nose, thinner lips, or bigger eyes to be pretty.
And for those who always dream to get a perfect body shape or skin tone like VS models, you just too narrow mind baby. There are tons of models who have big size and dark skin color.

love yourself, goddamn.

sincerely,
a person who is 999999,9% tired of white-washed girls of colour