Last Friday at uni there was a girl did dumb things, being so meant and sarcastic in fact she has nothing to show off and it makes her looks more disgusting by her behaviour.
Fast forward one of my friend got really angry, shouted at her inside the faculty and was about to punch her, I tried to calmed my friend down but actually it bothered me too for about half an hour as I thought of things I could have fired back at her, for godsake that time I was about to punched her or slap her because inside of me was really boiling but I remembered one of my resolutions that I wrote at the end of 2018. It said "do good, think good, take positive in everything"
It was not easy to control my emotion when I am angry, you can ask people around me of how I behaved when I was in highschool and middleschool, I was really temperament, physical fighting was my favourite way to solve the problem and to finish the anger.
Until one day I realized I was spending all this time and energy on the person that I couldn’t control, rather than concentrating on how I could react that would save me all this inner torment and hatred.
After so many things happend, I learnt that I can’t control how other people behave but I can control my respond to it all. So I came to the point where self and emotions control is really important and I started to learn how to control my emotions everytime I feel boiling inside.
One of the most important pieces of advice I could give for facing someone you want to punch in the face is Take A Breath, deep breathing releases tension, this could help you to clear your mind, and react from your positive, true self. For example, last friday, I stayed quiet and did my best to inhale and exhale slowly, to remind my self that I can't control people behaviour and to let go the idea of punching her in the face.
Second advice is Talk Less and Learn to Appreciate Silence, don’t fall into an unnecessary argument or fighting just because you feel angry, don't say or do things you'll regret in 5 minutes later. Again, exhale-inhale, a moment of silence in a moment of anger, can save you from a hundred moments of regret.
The third advice is Try to Keep the Positivity in Mind. The positivity you create inside your mind will help you move beyond the negativity around you. Let your positivity empower you to think kindly of others, speak kindly to others, and do kind things for others. Kindness always makes a difference. Beside, not getting the cops called on you for punching someone in the face is a big plus ;)
With love,
Angie
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